The display of rudeness to blame for both: the one who is rude, and the one who are rude. The first - is not able to keep their emotions under control, the second - it allows to show an open aggression towards themselves. If passers-by can be rude to ignore the lack of respect from the people with whom you are communicating every day, you need to stop at the first manifestation. Hama - is insecure people who need to assert themselves and improve their self-esteem. Special talent and natural charm they usually do not shine, and therefore are looking for a man, through which you can raise your credibility in the eyes of other people.
You probably will not notice the time , in the working team that the same people constantly suffer the ironic remarks in his address from his colleagues , while only embarrassed smile . To become a daily energy supply of Ham , must possess the following traits :
- an increased sense of duty- It makes a person feel constantly guilty of something , and these people can be blamed for anything, they implicitly recognize their guilt , without taking into account the circumstances and not coming up with excuses , and all the proud attacks offenders they perceive nodding silently agreeing with them ;
- low self-esteem- A person who does not respect themselves , respect no one will be and if it will be noticed , and in a team , then just to have fun , letting go of inappropriate jokes about him , but to somehow Defense person with low self-esteem begins to scream in response or insulting boor than it only whet and cheers ;
- conflict-free- Occurs in people whose parents since childhood formed the unquestioning respect for all people and fear of authority, but it does not foster respect for yourself, do not teach a child to stand up for themselves and reflect the surrounding pressure , so people leave conflict- of offenders and try both can be smaller with them in one area .
To avoid becoming a victim of this , you need to learn how to respond to inappropriate attacks people in your inner circle . If you intentionally provoke a conflict , try these psychological techniques :
- Intelligent trolling.People often talk on forums and in chat rooms , sign the term. It consists in the following: if you start insulting "including intellectual" and start " downloading " the interlocutor intelligent phrases. For example, in the profanity you can say, " Sorry, I do not understand your question. Communicate with me in the language of Pushkin and Fet , please. "
- Misunderstanding.In response to rudeness pretend that did not understand: "What excuse?
- Questions.Instead of answering the audacity to ask clarifying questions: "Do you think my hands are growing out of the place?
- Humor.Rescues in virtually all situations.
- The complaint management.At work, this method is better not to use, you do not want to pass in the team sneak , and the authorities is unlikely to enjoy. This method is appropriate only in state institutions , if the official ( local doctor in the clinic , the housing department employee , a pension fund , social security ) allows himself rudely treated you , do not get involved in the conflict , ask politely first and last name ( as a rule, already at this stage rude tone changes ) , and write a complaint to the administration.
- Consent. - Where do you climb out of turn, a freak?
- Yes, I'm a freak because I climb and jump the queue.
After such response boor nothing to say, he lost.
- Please.You can just ask insistently not to be rude to you. - Do not Hami me.
- I have not yet started.
- So, the time has come to end.
- Allergies.When the source properly reflected in your address, start purposely sneeze and cough, and then say, "Sorry, but I'm allergic to verbal diarrhea and nonsense."
- Disappointment.Shame cad their disappointment in him: "I had a better opinion of you," "I do not believe it now you say."