How to become cheerful and sociable person?

Outgoing and cheerful people achieve far greater success than their sensible serious but closed peers. It seems that they go through life easy and carefree. It is true, people with a sense of humor differently assess the situation, they " do not ship " itself and other meticulous reflections : "Why did this happen? What could change ? " . Everything is much simpler: the problem was solved - the problem of forgotten what happened has happened , we must go further .

Why love fun and sociable people?
  • they are positive and uplifting;
  • they can discuss any topic;
  • can provide custom advice;
  • They are a source of interesting information;
  • they have a well-developed savvy, which helps to find a way out of any situation (which is especially appreciated by management);
  • a gay man near silent even fun.
How to develop the communicative?
  • communicate to start with the people to whom you feel sympathy, gradually expanding the circle of other people;
  • a desire to communicate, it is necessary to respect the human, try to see the good qu
    alities in the interlocutor, you can even praise him for them, so you place a person to himself and to set up a pleasant conversation;
  • read works of art - the more a person reads, the better he goes to clothe thoughts into words;
  • See modern comedy shows, sitcoms, comedy quality - they help to develop a sense of humor and tells you how to behave in embarrassing situations;
  • as often as possible makes people laugh - try to even the most mundane story (for example, a trip on public transport or buying oranges) to turn into a kind of adventure with funny details;
  • Learn to forgive yourself mistakes - we forgive others is easier than ourselves , we should not get hung up on thinking about the words , because of which you accidentally disgraced ; it happens to everyone, with the help of successful jokes can be nice to get out of the situation ;
  • in conversation ask a lot of questions, thus you are interested in the other person, but do not overdo it, do not turn the conversation into a formal interview;
  • go in for sports or join a club of interests - so you will have new friends who will be with you a common cause;
What not to do?
  • communicate mainly pessimistic people who do not want to change their lives , they are satisfied that everything is bad and more will only get worse - for them you will turn into a vest for laments , or , even worse , to the envy ( with it does not matter that you have a lot more problems than they have ) ;
  • ignore the resentment - if not to show the person that you hate something, it will start to perceive it as a tribute;
  • silent during the conversation - if we talk any more about what is better to leave, citing urgent business;
  • speak platitudes or obvious to all things - especially the various old jokes and anecdotes , for example, comic saying: "We wanted the best , it turned out as always " been jammed into holes and almost no one is laughing ;
  • hypocrite - if the person you frankly do not like, it is better to reduce contact to a minimum duty smile and false flattery recognized immediately and push the interlocutor;
  • telling fantastic stories about himself - one or two times it can be fun, but then causes mistrust and anger, you do not want to go thank you buffoon;
  • talk to everyone on the "same language" - it is necessary to know who and how much to talk about, for example, with colleagues you talk a little bit at a different level than with close friends, and that's fine;
  • the opinion of others to believe about other people - just common mistake people say that Bob had betrayed him , but keep silent about the real causes of this act , in fact-finding may be that John, on the contrary, is a victim , but as a man, a decent dig in the dirt I did not, and just went to the side , securing the stigma of traitor ; Remember : until the person you personally done nothing wrong , you have no right to ignore it.
Sociability , a sense of humor and charisma develop in the family , if Mom and Dad a lot of joking and laughing , they are unlikely to increase child - pessimist. However, this does not mean that all these qualities can not be developed independently as an adult .